It seemed frightening, but we wanted to see it anyway. Why? because we knew we would overcome that fear or it wouldn’t last within us for long. The next day we’d go on with our lives with no change at all.
Putting it in a different perspective than entertainment, fear is one of our main blockers and resistance to evolve as a person in the different domains. Probably the main resistant of what we could be, do or achieve. visualize yourself without fear, and imagine where you could be by now or all the things would be able to achieve.
Just try it for a second. think about those moments where you hesitated, doubted, questioned the unknown and “accommodate” to your status quo (even if it was somehow poor or didn’t brought you joy and passion. Those moments when you fooled yourself and said quietly “I took the best decision”. “It wouldn’t have worked”, “I couldn’t make it”, “how could I manage it afterwards” and all sort of alibis you’ll get at hand to justify your inertia and comfort you when you know deeply there was another way to go.
Just pick one of those situations, a simple one. A personal situation, family, job, study, a simple opinion or position you should have taken. How different could be the outcome? how could it have affected or changed your path, faith, confidence or courage (or simply the perspective you look at your life and your reality)? I’m not apologist of the “what if’s” as normally those are a sort of allies of fear. But in this case, instead of a negative “what if” pick a positive one. No side picking, why should the negative one have more weight on your decisions? So go ahead, go back to that moment in time and visualize what could be the change in your life. Be bold and brainstorm. Don’t discuss with your inner-self otherwise you’ll start grabbing alibis. Write down all change that could have happen and what impact they could have on your life journey.
We all know that road of fear, we’ve been there. Try to keep it as personal and as close to your reality and circumstances as possible. what would you do different? (do= action, the main ally to overcome fear and move forward). How empowered and determined would you fell from that moment on? How much would you benefit in terms of self confidence, commitment and discipline when you challenge yourself and instead staying stuck you face those challenges?
Regardless of how much of a believer you are on the outer world you must above all believe in yourself. Don’t let others define you or your capabilities. Change the perspective and look at those fears and resistance as opportunities and challenges to test you. Cut the chains, get lose, run your life as a dog who’s allowed to run out into the fields. Don’t be a prison for your own self. Being tied up to your fears (or to your comfort/perceived security) won’t allow you to evolve. Don’t waste the chance to “beat” the person who you were yesterday. If this world is a competition in all domains, remember, you’re not competing with others. You’re competing with the best version of yourself.
Use fear and resistance as part of a ladder that will help you to go over the wall. Fears on the different domains are steps of that ladder, you can try to jump two at the time but the risk of fall is bigger. At same time don’t forget, everything worthwhile involves risks. That should be an extra motivation. Step on the ladder of fear and turn it in the ladder of personal improvement and development.
Dead pent content, Really enjoyed examining.